When I tell people about what I want to do with my life they’re supportive and encouraging. Except when it comes to one thing. When I say that I don’t think I’ll ever want kids people have this idea that I’ll change my mind when I get older.
First it was “once you’re grown up you’ll change your mind”. Well I’ve been grown up for quite some time now but that change of mind still haven’t happened. Now I wonder exactly how old I have to get before people can trust that I actually know how I want to live my life.
Sure, many people change their mind about kids as they grow older. I seriously doubt that I will though. There are several reasons to this.
First of all I don’t like kids. Never have, never will. They don’t amuse me and I’m not the funny aunt type who kids like. I’m like that old aunt I have who wasn’t mean but never bothered to really talk to me and my siblings more than necessary.
Second of all I like my lifestyle. I enjoy being free without too many responsibilities. I dream about travelling the world, not settling down.
The third reason to why I don’t want kids is that I just don’t think I’d make a good mother. Sometimes it feels like I can barely take care of myself. How on earth would I be able to take care of a child? Even if I did want a child it would be selfish of me to have one when I don’t think I could care for one properly. I wish more people considered that factor because there’s so many people who aren’t suitable to be parents. I’m not. Perhaps I could be but right now I’m definitely not.
No, I’m pretty sure about this. I’m not the mothering type. When I grow old I won’t be a grandmother. I’ll be the crazy cat lady living in a cottage in the woods with ten cats. 
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I agree wholeheartedly with your viewpoint; I don’t want to have kids either and it’s hard sometimes to convince people that it’s probably not something I’m going to change my mind about. I’m lucky that my mum’s supportive of my decision though, if only because she doesn’t want to be a grandmother! Lol. But you can have a perfectly fulfilling life without having kids and it sounds like you have a lot of plans for other things (like travel, etc) that will make you happy. Lol at the crazy cat lady idea though, I’ll probably be like that too, only with dogs. I’ll be a crazy dog lady.
I don’t want to have kids right now; just thinking about that makes me go baahhhhh and can’t picture myself as a mother.. however I’d like to have kids to leave someone beind me (and yto dress them in morbid clothes and take photos). Who is asking you anyway? If it is just people tey don’t need to know and if it is your mom.. well, hope that your sisters have kids soon or something.. tere is something about women that want grandkids ASAP V_V
I respect your decision. I totally agree that there are people not suitable to be parents, but they have kids anyway. My parents are examples of that. I wasn’t planned, but given the way I had to grow up, and things I’ve been through, it probably would have been better if I was never brought into this world or at least put up for adoption. I know this sounds awful because we should love our parents, and I do, but my life has been complicated and lonely in large part to them.
why do they care about that haha? it’s odd people actually tell you should have kids, and when are you having kids etc.. mind their own damn buisness!
That’s a great way to live too. And if you don’t have kids you’ll always be free to do whatever you want, go wherever you want. You’ll be free and independent.
Mothering isn’t for everyone. People who think it should be are old-fashioned and closed-minded. I think people like you who know exactly what they want are heavily deserving of respect. It’s rare that you find someone who knows what the hell they want when it comes to anything.
Sorry… I know I’m being a bitch. I DO like your website but I was looking through your profile and you said you liked the British accent, you do realise that Britain consists of England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland right? It’s just vaguely upsetting to hear that many Americans confuse English with British… Ok rant over… Sorry again.
I’ll shut up now.
I respect the fact that you do not want kids, and other people should figure that you ARE serious about it and its not just a “phase” or whatever. I can’t relate to the fact of not wanting kids since I have one that was planned, but I really feel deep down that he is all we can handle right now financially. I knew I wanted one little boy named Aiden, I got my wish and now I feel done.
LOL (at the person above me) its funny she assumes you are American.
I never wanted kids until my cousin had his little girl and I started babysitting her every now and then. Turns out I’m good with them.
I’m still not very sure if I want kids of my own, though. I’m definitely not prepared for one anytime soon, financially or mentally. I also totally agree with you that some people who have had kids really shouldn’t have.
Thank you for the comment on my blog about the Christmas candy! I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to get back to you. I’ve been absent from the blogging world for a little while. I really liked the Marabou Nonstop. It was my favorite out of the ones you sent me.
It’s so frustrating when people don’t realize that not everyone’s needs and wants are the same. If you don’t want to have kids, that’s your decision and people should respect that instead of telling you that you’re wrong.
LOL, I’m only 21 and I’m already the crazy cat lady.
I understand where you’re coming from, and I felt the same way at one time. I think that, for me, it was more “am I ever going to find the right guy” type of situation. I want to have children, but I think at this point in my life… it’s just not the right time. I want to experience more of what Life has to offer first… when the time comes, hopefully I will know.
I hate how the media pumps that stigma of “if you don’t have kids you’re not a complete woman” into us. Another example of how people really need to get over behaviors and ideas that don’t apply anymore. Maybe back in the day, when the Catholic Church did most of the thinking for everyone. Nowadays, though… we can think for ourselves. Not all women are maternal, not all men are paternal. That’s just how some people are. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and good for you for standing by your decision. If people don’t accept it, well, that’s really their problem.
Hear, hear! I absolutely fucking HATE when people try to tell me what I think. I know what I’m thinking. I know what I want. And I don’t want any bloody kids.
I’m also not even keen on the idea of getting married — How restrictive it must be! I’d much rather live alone in my own apartment with a cat or two. So nice and quiet and calming, and so much freedom to do whatever I want, WHENever I want!
Everyone told me the same damn thing when I told them I would never have kids. I’m now 38 and still no sign of kids in my house, and still no chance of that happening.
I’m perfectly capable, but there are plenty of people already having kids, so I don’t feel compelled to add to the humanity soup of the world.
My gene’s end with me, lol