In Sweden there was recently a huge uproar on Facebook over a snapshot of a woman on TV with unshaved armpits. Someone posted the picture of the woman on Facebook and hundreds of people posted mean comments about how gross she was. A group called “take back the hair” was started as a protest and women posted photos of their unshaved armpits and were met with the same taunt, from mostly men, who called them disgusting ugly feminist cunts and other not so nice things.
I myself shave my legs and armpits but I have no problem with people not doing so. It’s up to them and for them to look as nature created us all isn’t disgusting, it’s natural. I think they’re brave. More brave than I am because even though I think it’s a stupid ideal I still shave because I’ve been brainwashed by society to thinking I look better that way.
What bugs me the most about the whole debate about whether women should shave or not is all the men who don’t shave their legs and armpits but think women should. Hello double standards! If you as a man don’t shave your legs and armpits, then why the hell is a woman gross is she don’t? It’s stupid since men actually are the hairy ones! If the hair itself is what’s gross then men’s hair should be just as “disgusting” as women’s hair, or rather, even more disgusting since they have more of it!
Of course the beauty ideals is to blame but I find it very sad that so many people can’t see how ridiculous those ideals are. Just because the beauty ideals says that women should look a certain way that doesn’t mean that the ideal has to be followed or that those who don’t follow it are disgusting.
There are those who say feminism is bad and that the old gender roles are natural and good for both men and women. 95% of those people, the kind of people who think women belong at home with the children while men are natural leaders, are (surprise, surprise), men. I hate men like that. Men who preach about how the gender roles have worked so well for thousands of years and don’t need to be changed. Men who think feminists are angry bitter women with nothing better to do than argue.
There are of course also women who think the old gender roles are good but my impression is that there’s way, way, waaaay less of them than there is of men with such opinions. The thing is, of course these men have no problem with the old gender roles because according to those roles they’re the ones with all the power. Also, they don’t know what the women of the middle-ages thought about the gender roles they were forced into. It’s easy to hundred of years later sit here and talk about how swell it was back whenever when “women were women” and “men were men”. They do however know that most women of today indeed are sick of gender roles and wants the same opportunities as men. They should listen to us. Not rant about how “things always have been in a certain way” and therefore must stay that way because it’s the only way and god forbid society ever changes. The horror, the horror!
Wouldn’t the world have been a much more swell place had society and the balance of power between people never changed? Imagine had no one ever questioned slavery. Or if the poor had never been given the right to vote. Or take this thing with Earth being flat and the centre of the universe and everyone saying otherwise being a heretic. It would have been so much better if things had stayed that way, because that’s the way it always was.
In many instances change isn’t just good, it’s needed. When it comes to gender roles it’s both. What sex we have shouldn’t decide what roles we have to take in society. If a man wants to be a stay at home dad, he should be able to be that. If a woman wants to educate herself and become a CEO, she should be able to do that. Gender roles has existed for a very long time but that does not mean they are something good.
It’s the end of June and the entire month has rained away. May was beautiful and warm. I had dinner on the balcony every day and took walks enjoying the weather. Then came June and the rain. Now half of the summer is over meaning so far a fourth of it has rained away.
As anyone who reads my blog on a regular basis knows I hate fall and winter and wish Sweden only had one season. Summer that is, of course. To spend weeks of my precious summer cooked up inside is nothing but a tragedy. I need to get the most out of this time because in two months time fall is here and then comes the dreaded winter.
How the hell do we even get through that every year? How does anyone find the energy to go through months of cold and darkness? We of course have no choice but I think it’s a bit odd not all of us suffer from severe winter depression considering how long, cold, dark and depressing the Swedish winter it.
I could write a hundred reasons to why winter sucks and just as many about why I love summer. I won’t bore you with that though but here are my main reasons for loving summer.
1. Sunshine makes me happy and gives me energy.
2. In the summer you never have to be cold.
3. Meaning you can be outside so much more.
4. Outside you can do fun things like go swim in a lake, have a picnic, take a bike ride at the countryside, go camping, throw a barbeque party and so on.
5. Most fairs, open air festivals and similar events are held during summer.
6. You have the time to do all those things since you have time off from work every summer.
7. Green landscapes are beautiful.
8. So are flowers.
9. And summer gardens.
10. Summer is the season for socializing and making new friends.
Hultsfred 2010. When I lived in Hultsfred I took many walks by the lake.
Like the popular summer song by Tomas Ledin goes. Be warned, it looses a lot in translation.
“Sommaren är kort (the summer is short)
Det mesta regnar bort (most of it rains away)
Men nu är den här (but now it’s here)
Så ta för dig (so enjoy it)
Solen skiner idag (the sun is shining today)
Hösten kommer snart (fall will soon be here)
Det går med vindens fart (faster than the wind)
Så lyssna på mig (so listen to me)
Solen skiner (the sun is shining)
Kanske bara idag (maybe only today)”
Not sure what they’re doing but they’re cute.
Lately I’ve become really fond of blue nail polish.
I like matching blue nails with these jeans shorts.
The bike road next to the stream, which I walk to and from my job at the store downtown, is really beautiful this time of the year. The entire area on both sides of the stream running through Västerås is breathtaking during summer. Downtown old pitoresque houses and parks line it and upstreams there’s lots of trees and beautiful nature.
Now The photo quality isn’t the best since I took them with my cell phone camera.
Allée next to the old cemetery.
In the woods next to my house there’s a mini swamp. I like swamps like these with trees growing in them. It feels like a miniature scene from a southern USA bayou. I’d love to visit southern US some day and take a boat ride through a real bayou. Until that happens I have to settle with looking at this Swedish miniature swamp.
I’ve bought a couple of new things to the balcony which is looking prettier and prettier. I love being outside there among all my flowers.
A new parasol.
Look at this pretty couch bed I just ordered! The long seat is hollow so you can store pillows, duvets and stuff in it. The other two sets can be pulled out and made into a 140 cm wide bed. It will look so good in my black, white and grey living room. The couch is from Jysk.
Summer is here and people are tanning again. Some only tan during the summer but others lie in tanning beds during winter to maintain their “healthy” glow. Me, I’m as pale as ever. My SPF 50 sunblock and SPF 15 mineral make-up are close friends of mine. I love sunshine and being outside when the weather is nice but I protect my skin from the sun and never ever tan. Personally I don’t understand why people are so obsessed with getting a tan. I honestly don’t think it makes people look any more attractive.
Some say a tan makes you look healthier. Then I prefer looking sick because at least I am healthy compared to those grilling themselves under the sun increasing the risk of getting skin cancer. Now skin cancer is not what I call healthy.
Also tanning makes your skin age. Is having a tan really worth getting wrinkles and looking older than you would have otherwise? I’m positive that the fact that I protect my skin from the sun has something to do with why I have so few wrinkles and therefore look younger than my actual age.
This is what I look like right now. I’m a pale girl and I have no problem with that.
And here are some celebrities not ashamed of their pale complexion.
Dita Von Teese